I’m a mom. You’re probably a mom or an aunt or a grandma or likely there are children in your life in some way.
Have you ever stopped to wonder who they see or what they think of when they think of us? How will they reflect back on us one day? How do you reflect back on your own mom?
Is it……My mom totally let herself go and was always focused on us. She was always worried about us. I don’t really remember her being happy, she was always so stressed out, yelling, etc. etc.
OR it is…..
My mom was always so happy. She was always delighting in her life. She was always so happy with her body, she took such good care of herself and she always had so much energy for us.
I’ve thought about this before, but never so much until recently when I heard life coach, Molly Freestone, talk about this view our children will have of us. And what it means.
Of course, I want to worry about my kids and make sure they have everything they need and be everywhere they need to be, that’s part of being a mom, but am I taking care of ME in the process?
We don’t think about this being something that isn’t ideal for a child to see, but it’s not. It’s not ideal for kids to see us NOT taking care of ourselves. Because it’s ultimately what they will remember about us and also what they eventually model in their own life.
Think about what it would be (or was) like to have a mother that took good care of herself. Think back about that and the impact that has had (or could have had) on your own life.
I think that’s very important.
So …. How DO you get more focused on YOU when we can be so reluctant to do so?
Spend some time taking a look at how things would be if your needs were met. It’s important to create more of YOUR joy in your life outside of the kids and their schedules.
Figure out what your needs are. Go out on a limb and say you’re going to put yourself as first priority. Remember the “put your oxygen mask first” routine.
And girls…I’m not talking about a trip to Hawaii here!! I mean who has the time or money for that?!!
Do you need more sleep? Do you need an hour to read for your own pleasure (or let’s face it, a HALF HOUR?)
Do you need one morning a week to have coffee and catch up with a friend. Or, if you’re more introverted like me, do you need a morning to just go have coffee alone and find some solitude and peace? Do you need a peaceful walk in nature? What is it?
Carve it out. It is possible. Figure out what YOU need, and sprinkle it within your schedule. Mental and physical health are major priorities for me. They make me a better person as a whole. I bet you probably feel the same.
If we have these things, we can be a BETTER mom, a BETTER female role model AND get it all done.
I think it’s also important to remember, kids do what WE do, not what we say to do. That’s what they learn.
If we want them to grow up being nice, caring, and connected individuals we have to model that for them. And it starts by making ourselves a priority.
The best gift you can give your children is your own happiness.
How do you feel about this? I’d love to hear your comments below!
As Always — KEEP GOING,