Weight loss (which I will refer to as Fat Loss because that’s what we’re really after) is like a dance or a song isn’t it? That’s been my experience if I really think about it. I have a really strong dance, music, and artistic background so I tend to think of things this way.
When it comes to losing fat, I’ve done it all.
Pretty much every diet, every pill and supplement, every single “way” of eating, exercising, and torturing myself because I hated the way I felt and looked.
My first diet started around the age of 19 after a year of eating every meal at Taco Bell. That was also the season of my life I began exercising because I hated my body.
Unfortunately, that’s not as young as some girls.
Now, after almost 21 years of fighting (and basically earning a doctorate degree in this field), I’m starting to see things in a new light. I’m processing the whole “process” differently.
And I’m going to be really brave in saying…….
IT’S NOT ABOUT THE FOOD. IT DOESN’T START WITH FOOD.
Ah!! WOW!! I mean – I’m the girl that promoted the book, It Starts With Food.Don’t get me wrong, that’s a really valuable book, and everyone should still read it.
I just don’t believe that’s where the show starts.
I grew up on conventional beef (my family owned a feedlot for many many decades), and I did not have a weight problem. Not saying that I didn’t have minor health issues, but it was never anything long term. I also used to drink tons of beer (oops!) – I wasn’t bloated and really didn’t gain weight. I ate pasta, potatoes, bread, crackers. And, I ate my mom’s homemade chocolate chip cookies fairly often. Again, I was not overweight during this season of my life.
Any of this sound familiar?
IT WAS NOT ABOUT THE FOOD.
I was a JOYOUS SOUL. Carefree & living life like there was no tomorrow. In fact, much of my purpose in life, as I see it now, I was living a version of it back then.
I didn’t have a weight problem.
I ate when I was hungry, slept like a kid does (which was a lot), took loads of dance classes, was active in cheerleading, and lifted some weights all because it was fun. I was LIVING. I was hanging out with my friends, and thankfully, I had awesome parents who didn’t let me live the stresses of life they were going through. I was also a kid growing up on a farm in the late 70’s and 80’s so we were outside ALL THE TIME. Which….is still available to us and our kids 🙂
JOY. FUN. LOW STRESS. LOTS OF MOVEMENT out of the sake of wanting to do it for fun. LOTS OF PRESENCE in the moment.
We have lost these things. You know why I know that? Because so many of the women I’ve worked with have told me so. We can’t imagine even being present with a plate of food right now. We don’t know how to do that anymore. We feel guilty doing something that brings us joy. The first time I put on a significant amount of weight was when I went to college. Now, I understand, there’s a lot going on during these years, most kids do gain weight. However, I’ve just recently realized mine was a different situation.
That was the first time I gave up my joy of life, and started doing things because they were the “right” things to do. Because that’s just “the way things are.” Who was I to continue being the creative soul that was imbedded in me since birth. I gave up my TRUE SELF. It was no one’s fault (I know that now, it didn’t play out that way back then.)
I haven’t ever linked this stuff together before, but it similarly keeps showing up in different seasons of my life, and I would bet money I’m not the only one who fights weight issues because they’ve lost their true self.
Powerful stuff. Am I right?
So what do we DO about it?
WE GET IT BACK.
Oh…I have a ton more to say. Many more “ah-ha” moments to illustrate that I know you’ll identify with. I just want you to know === >
I’m changing my talk. All my life’s been a stage. Singing and dancing. I might even go as far to say that my life is a SONG and I’m creating a DANCE to it. And when I’m not able to do that, it shows physically on my body. I even have ‘Dance’ tattooed on my dang foot!!
Here’s the deal, we’ve been approaching fat loss in this systematic way like, if we have all the answers around food and exercise, we can’t fail. And for a time, that’s right. I’m not saying we can’t GET the results. We can. I’ve proven that. You’ve proven that. What I’m saying is, we’re not getting and staying there. There’s something else that’s preventing that.
This is where I’m going with my life’s work. I won’t pretend to have all the answers. I won’t pretend that I can help all of you – some of you won’t identify with this weight + song + life’s a dance thing, and that’s ok. That just means, I’m probably not the girl to help you. But some of you …… you’re going to identify with this like you’re coming home. You know exactly what I’m talking about. You are the women I’m hoping to gather around me.
I’m on this journey just as much as you are; I just happen to be at the front of the pack. This fat loss thing is a dance. It’s song. In dance and song, we have choreography, a sequence of steps and movements, we have notes, we have keys. Every movement, every step, every note, every key has to be just right to create the final piece.
Fat Loss is no different. Life is no different.
MY CURRENT STAND IS: We have the choreography jumbled, the notes are off key, and we’re missing some key pieces to create the final number.
LET’S CHANGE IT.